adverb: in a truthful, fair, or honorable way
My oldest daughter and I were at a party talking with a mom of four, all of which are pre-teens and teenagers. The mom asked her, “What is the best advice your mom has ever given you?” I looked at my daughter intently as if to say, “Make this good!” She smiled a Cheshire smile and said, “Nobody gives a shit about you.” “What?!” the other mom says. My daughter, very proudly, goes on to explain that when she was in high school I made it clear to her that the only people who cared about her was her family. No one else could be relied on to help her or support her through life. “As a matter of fact, there are many people out there who want to trip you up, watch you fail, take your things,” my daughter went on to explain. The other mother was dumbfounded. “It’s better you learn the world is a tough place early,” she said. “You have to get up everyday and fight for what you want.” I was proud of her response. It was honest.
As a teenager I knew this instinctively. No one was going to pay my way. No one was going to help me become who I wanted to be. I had to have goals and work towards them…optimal word here is WORK. I only expected anything from myself. All my close friends felt the same way.
Most kids today become teenagers who figure happiness is going to fall from the sky. Work is something their parents do. And everyone around them is there to help them, or wallow in their suffering when they don’t get what they want. Entitlement and social media have tainted the truth. Here’s a news flash…Facebook isn’t real! It is the best of the best of people’s lives. It isn’t the discipline or the sacrifice or the work of people with integrity. Success has to be earned. It, like life, is a process. Why does no one want to speak truthfully about the consequences of failing and the rewards of working hard? It is true…No One Gives A Shit About You…NOGASAY! I kind of like that about myself…earning my own way in this world. Honestly.
“What are you waiting for, no one is going to show you how.”
Give It 2 Me Hard Candy