noun: simple elegance or refinement of movement
an attractively polite manner of behaving
I went out in the world and looked for grace, it’s hard to find. It is so hard to find that I thought perhaps I didn’t understand the word. I came home and looked it up. I did know what it meant, but I didn’t see evidence of grace at the coffee shop, or the grocery store, or the high school. None of my local jaunts.
As a little girl I took ballet classes, wanting to be graceful so badly. At some point late in my teens or early into adulthood I thought it better to be tougher. I liked shocking people. I’d call it honesty but it was the opposite of grace, it was vanity.
When I was younger, there were people around with expectations of how I should act. My parents might say, “That’s not appropriate, go change your clothes” or “Stand up straight” or “Tell the man ‘Thank You”. Teachers, religious guiders, mentors…It was a constant, I didn’t have to think, just make the corrections they gave. I haven’t had those corrections in my life for a very long time! I’m going to make the effort to dress more elegantly, to have better posture, to show manners in public. Sometimes when you notice that something is missing, it is up to you to replace it. I kind of like that about myself…inspiring myself to be better. Gracefully.
“We must become the change we want to see.”