noun: the practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behavior
I have decided that our culture lacks discipline. Sure there are some disciplined people out there…working out everyday, habitually studying, regular church goers. But most of us are truly UNdisciplined. It makes sense that we decide what we want, set our goals, and then become disciplined in making what we want reality. I call it “Backward Planning”. It’s perfectly logical. So, why is it so hard?
I told my family last New Year’s, “We lack discipline!” “We all want to be muscular but none of us want to work out EVERYDAY, we want to be healthy but we keep eating drive thru, we want to be intelligent but we don’t want to read.” They rolled their eyes at me, but none-the-less they knew I was right. I am disciplined when it comes to my family. My grown children will tell you that dinner is around six, baths around seven, and you read before bed. Sunday nights you clip your nails and a birthday breakfast is always donuts. When it comes to my personal goals I am lacking, lazy, and lax though. I can’t make myself do the work, I make excuses, I bargain with myself, I talk myself out of doing what needs to be done. Why is that? I can’t train myself?!
I have extremely high expectations. Often times I don’t do the work because I don’t want to disappoint myself. That is so lame. I try not to expect more of others than I do myself, but that really doesn’t push me to be disciplined mind, body, or spirit. The word disciplined comes from “disciple”, which is a follower. My children are all but grown and now mothering is reduced to modeling. The spotlight is on me to be wise, healthy, faithful, all which take discipline. It’s a tall order. But I kind of like that about myself…building my own code of behavior and carefully creating excellence. In a sort of disciplined kind of way.
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”