noun: the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc.
a pledge, or undertaking
an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action
Ok. So the base boards are cleaned and the cupboards are cleaned out and January is over. Just like that. Wow! How fast time flies; we are on to and into February. The unofficial month of the L word. The word LOVE is thrown around a little too much, if you ask me. It is a powerful word. It should be sacred. And sharing that emotion in any relationship requires so much more than just saying that one word.
For me, it comes down to commitment. It’s being dedicated to that person. Riding the ups and downs of not only your own roller coaster life, but theirs as well. It’s a promise to put them first, most times before yourself, and above everything else. It’s an obligation that restricts from other obligations, freedoms, and individualism for the good of togetherness and us-ness.
Once one relationship multiplies (children) than the commitment multiplies. Choosing which roller coaster to be on at any given time, or sometimes various roller coasters at once, can be dizzying. I love Disneyland as much as the next person, but being locked in the “Happiest Place on Earth” and forced to constantly go on ride after ride after ride twenty four hours a day for decades can make anyone sick to their stomach. But that’s not really the L word. That’s more like the F word…FAMILY.
Committed…to love, to family, to friends. It takes discipline and hard work, not very romantic…but awww the payoffs! When it’s good and right and it all comes together, it’s magical. It feels like a cool swimming pool on a hot summer day. Or a big bed with soft sheets and feather pillows after a hard day. Or a good laugh, that even makes you cry. It’s peace. So, whatever you are committed to, make it a good one! I kind of like that about myself…committed to those I love. Doing the work and reaping the rewards…so worth it!
“If we commit ourselves to one person for life, this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather, it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession but participation.”
― Madeleine L’Engle