In Kind

Kindness

noun: the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate

Why is it so hard to be kind?  Especially to those I love.  If the grocery store is out of my favorite coffee or the dry cleaners don’t have the clothes ready when they said they would or the dog peed on the floor again; why do I get mad at my husband? It’s not his fault.  But, I will tell you why…because he has no idea how much I do for him and everyone is incompetent and the dog is just naughty!  Who else is there to vent and rant to?

I take out my disappointments on my loved ones because I can.  Instead of going for a walk or meditating or breathing ten deep breathes.  I explode.  And then they do the same back at me. The cycle is strengthened and kindness is buried deeper and deeper.  I become what I do. I get what I give.  Anger and confusion and fear only feed themselves.  Dysfunction ensues.

Being friendly and generous and considerate should be a go to for those I cherish most.  After all, the people I love look to me for guidance and advice, most needy when frustrated and annoyed and disappointed.  But, it is difficult to breathe in the negative and breath out kindness.

So what am I to those I love if I’m not kind?  I do strive for kindness in thought, but in deed I have to constantly remind myself, “Be kind, be kind, be kind!”  It is ridiculous that it’s so difficult!  Who are you kind to and why?  I kind of like that about myself…in a friendly way with a generous heart being considerate of those that matter most to me.  Showing kindness to those I love.

“The grass is not, in fact, always greener on the other side of the fence.

No, not at all.  Fences, have nothing to do with it.  The grass is greenest where it is watered.”

Robert Fulghum

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