Is It Relevant?


noun: closely connected or appropriate to the manner at hand


noun: an amount of money or property left to someone in a will

So, my husband says to me, “What about my legacy?” It stopped me dead in my tracks.  Legacy.  He certainly has amassed a legacy.  He is well respected in his field, owned his own business for nearly two decades.  There will be an inheritance for our children because of his life’s work.

Me, not so much.  I stopped working at my career when my third child was born.  I have no colleagues, no assets, nothing concrete to pass on.  Except…myself, I have been authentic.  Honest to a fault.  Creative and stylish and energetic. Smarter than I look and above all, loving.  All the same, not a legacy.

At some point it is natural that we begin thinking of our lives as finite. I believe we all want to leave something behind. My husband wanting to leave his name and some kind of amassed fortune to our children is living for the future.  I have been focused on making sure they mature into responsible adults that are self-reliant.  Leaders in what they feel passionate about.  I have lived for the present.  My life’s work is my children, but they do not belong to me, they aren’t mine, they can’t be my legacy.  I just pray I am always relevant to them.

I kind of like that about myself…being connected.  Knowing where I came from and where I’m going. I’m just trying to be appropriate to the manner at hand; hopefully earning me respect, even if it costs me my legacy.

“Relevance is a form of respect.”

Kate O’Neill

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