Great Expectations

expectation

noun: a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future

My great expectations are admittedly most often unrealistic. I both love and hate that about myself. I love that I have high standards. Lofty goals. A quest for excellence. But I hate that I sometimes believe that everyone thinks like I do. That time doesn’t matter. That the impossible is possible. It makes being me difficult. It makes being around me difficult.

In today’s culture I encounter those with no expectations at all. They are living day to day, week to week. Maybe they are overwhelmed by their options or expectancy from others. Then there are the neurotic detail-oriented obsessive compulsive goal seeking people. Maybe they are first born coffee lovers looking for validation and approval. I fall into the later, obviously. But honestly, neither side is whole.

What is a healthy dose of expectancy? Not enough expectation leads to not enough effort, skill, competency, mastery even. Too many expectations ultimately leads to disappointment. A balance of hopefulness and belief are probably the best bet to a life that is fulfilled. Perhaps true expectations should only be put on yourself. If you are making a bet then “A strong belief that something will happen” is definitely best put on you and your passions and talents and interests. Let’s face it, everyone else is a crapshoot.

I am adjusting my expectations. Which is illuminating what I strongly believe. And what I strongly believe in is the greatness of life; I believe in me and I kind of like that about myself.

“We can each define ambition and progress for ourselves. The goal is to work toward a world where expectations are not set by the stereotypes that hold us back, but by our personal passion, talents and interests.”

Sheryl Sandberg

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