verb: make or become less
“Mother” is both a noun and a verb. And every mother has her own story of why she became a mother and how she chose to mother. When it was my turn, I did it all consciously. I did it with a big heart knowing I would be giving pieces away. I became a mother with the full intention of raising children to be independent adults. That was my word, “independent”. Therefore, when they could do things on their own, I let them. And I was constantly readying them for the next level, preparing them for the next grade or telling them more would be expected of them at the next age. “Time to step it up.” Expectations were high. So mentors were provided proving to them that they were achievable. I am very goal oriented and I passed that on to them as well. When they were old enough to have goals we would backward plan how they would achieve success. To this day there have been no disappointments. There have been setbacks, don’t get me wrong. But forward motion has always ensued.
This is my twenty-fifth Mother’s Day. Most, not all, but most of my mothering theories have stood the test of time and been taken to heart. I am blessed beyond measure. But, I should have been more careful about what I wished for…at this point I can’t help but feel a bit diminished. You see, all my children took heed. They are all independent. They might want me in their life, but they don’t really need me anymore. They are all taller than me. I am literally looked down upon. I am definitely physically diminished. They are all smarter. My opinion counts, but it too is diminished. So I am also mentally diminished. They are traveling places I’ve never been. Learning things I do not know. They are young and beautiful. Writing their own stories. Each of them. I am diminished, but I could not be more proud.
As the universe closes a door it opens a window, so goes the old adage. As my children need me less I can expand my energies elsewhere. Which is exciting! This Mother’s Day I’m taken aback and also pushing forward, and I kind of like that about myself.
“Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.”
Wishing you a lovely Mother’s Day weekend.